I am saying You because I am talking to You, not brushing with broad strokes at all.  You're comments strike me as intellectually lacking and unecessarily contenscious.  What passes for conversations that I have had with you in the past have been answered with sneers, so I am understandably reticent to take your questions seriously.  If there was in my view even a slight chance that anything I had to say would not be countered with a 'yeah, so what' there would be a greater likelihood that I would engage with you in honest discussion.

There are plenty of screwups that I am willing to own, and often enough do.  But, frankly, this one is yours to own.  Try entering a conversation with less of a beam on your shoulder and you may have better luck getting folks to talk with you.

-chris